Dap of Affirmation

If one observes black culture from the outside looking in, it's clear that it is customary to dap someone up at the beginning and the end of an interaction. Being such a unique greeting, it's even trickled outside of the culture and Ted and Billy prefer to greet each other in this manner now.

There are a two explicit functions when " dapping someone up." There is the greeting dap and the parting dap. Their uses are clearly defined and one can learn to appropriately utilized the two.

However, the nuanced "dap of affirmation" has proven to be a bit more elusive. Let's set the scene:

You see two black individuals hanging out. Their banter is boisterous and playful, yet assertive. Their motions are large and expressive and their eye contact is intentional. As they converse, one says something that holds a great deal of truth. Instead of simply nodding in agreement, they dap each other up mid-convo.

This violates the structure of what dapping someone up is. They are neither coming or going.

You see, this is a mutual affirmation expressed in a simple yet purposeful manner. Whether you're talking about why Bron is the greatest, bonding over not eating everybody's food, or discussing how the plague that is food insecurity deliberately rips through our urban centers, it is used to say "I feel you."

This is something that cannot merely be observed, one has to be socialized into this gesture. It requires subconscious knowledge of subtle yet crucial mechanics within the interaction.

Like the snap.

A real dap of affirmation does not explode on impact. It doesn't end at the grasp. It pulls back and snaps. Always. The snap is breathtakingly simultaneous and effortlessly executed and we know exactly when to snap.


'Cause we black.

-The Good-Natured Troublemaker

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